Friends

18 Jan

Friends are one of the greatest gifts! I have been going through a book with my boys by John C. Maxwell called “The Choice Is Yours”. It is a powerfully awesome book! The very first chapter is on Attitude. Attitude is a choice. “Life is 10% how we make it; 90% how we take it.”

I want to share with you some of my favorite quotes from this chapter.

“Let no feeling of discouragement prey upon you, and in the end you are sure to succeed.”
-Abraham Lincoln

“God chooses what we go through. We choose how e go through it.”

“We are either the masters or the victims of our attitudes, It’s a matter of personal choice – blessing or curse.”

There was an inspiring story that I want to share with you.

It’s all in your MIND

His name is Roger Crawford. He makes his living as a consultant and public speaker. He’s written two books, and travels all across the country working with Fortune 500 companies, national and state associations, and school districts.

Those aren’t bad credentials. But if that doesn’t impress you, how about his: before becoming a consultant, he as a varsity tennis player for Loyola Marymount University and later became a professional tennis player certified by the United Sates Professional Tennis Association. Still not impressed? Would you change your opinion if I told you Roger has no hands and only one foot!

Roger Crawford was born with a condition called ectrodactylism. When he emerged from his mother’s womb, the doctors saw that he had a thumb – like projection extending out of his right forearm. He had no palms. His legs and arms were shortened. And his left leg possessed a shrunken foot with only three toes. (The foot was amputated when he was five.) Roger’s parents were told by various medical professionals that he would never be able to walk, probably would not be able to take care of himself, and would never lead a normal life.

After recovering from the shock, Roger’s parents were determined to give him the best chance possible for living a normal life. They raised him to feel loved, to be strong, and to develop independence. “You’re only as handicapped as you want to be,” his father used to tell him. They encouraged him to do everything his heart desired. And they taught him to think positively.
“Something my parents never did was to allow me to feel sorry for myself, or to take advantage of people because of my handicap,” observes Roger.

Roger appreciated the encouragement and training he received from his parents, but I don’t think he really understood the significance of it or his achievements until he was in college and he interacted with someone who wanted to meet him. After receiving a phone call from a man who read about his tennis victories, Crawford agreed to meet him at a nearby restaurant. When Roger stood up to shake hands that were almost identical to his. That got Crawford excited, because he thought he had found someone similar to him but older who could act a his mentor. But after talking with the stranger for a few minutes, he realized he was wrong. Roger says: Instead, what I found was someone with a bitter, pessimistic attitude who blamed all of life’s disappointments and failures on his anatomy.

I soon recognized that our lives and attitudes couldn’t have been more different….He had never held a job for long, and he was sure this was because of “discrimination” – certainly not because (as he admitted) he was constantly late, frequently absent, and failed to take any responsibility for his work. His attitude was, “The world owes me,” and his problem was that the world disagreed. He was even angry with me because I didn‘t share his despair.

We kept in touch for several years, until it dawned on my that even if some miracle were suddenly to give him a perfect body, his unhappiness and lack of success wouldn’t change. He would still be at the same place in his life.

That man had allowed failure to seize him from the inside.

Chances are that the adversity in your life has been nowhere near as difficult as Roger Crawford’s has been. And that’s why his story is such an inspiration. Roger maintains, “Handicaps can only disable us if we let them. This is true not only of physical challenges, but of emotional and intellectual ones as well…I believe that real and lasting limitations are created in our minds, not our bodies.”

What an inspiring story! Have a super Happy Sunday!

(Don’t forget to stop by sometime next week for some exciting news!)

Thanks for stopping by,

Mary

The Deets on the card.

Stamps: Gina K Designs – Trees Silhouette. Ink: PTI – Pure Poppy and Black Noir. Paper: SEI – Black Orchid (super yummy!). Accessories: Labels 1 Nestie, May Arts Black silk ribbon and some bling for the scallops.

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2 Responses to “Friends”

  1. martita January 18, 2009 at 12:34 pm #

    story is amazing! not only inspiring but also very optimistic! I’ll tell it to my friends!your card as always is so nice 🙂

  2. Keri Lee Sereika January 18, 2009 at 1:40 pm #

    Oh wow this is sooo pretty!!! I love that set by Gina K…

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